ELMER
My brother Elmer has
never married. We think that when he was in England he fell in love with an English girl and when it
didn't work out he never got over it. In the army he was a specialist working
on bomb sights. He had a very good brain in things like that. After the war he
went to work as a carpenter for the contractor Pa was superintendent for. He
never liked carpenter work. He tried it on his own as a contractor building
garages with Frank Dournour. They also did some remodeling. I worked for him
and Frank for a time. Frank grew up in our neighborhood on West 116th Street. He was an alcoholic. One day I brought him a bottle
of beer which he drank. We didn't see him for a week because that one beer
started him on a binge. After Frank and
Elmer split up, Elmer went in business with our brother, Norbert. They started building houses and were doing
pretty well at it. I worked for them as a cabinet maker and finisher for a
time. They were trying to dry out one newly plastered house with an oil fired
salamander. They left it on all night but something went wrong and it started
to smoke. It smoked all night and left a thick layer of black film on the walls
and ceiling. We washed the walls down with water but all that moisture and soot
made it very tough to put the finish woodwork on. They built one house in an
area with a very high water table. When they dug the basement it filled with
water so fast that they had to put the dirt back in and make a basement-less
house.
Elmer and Norb bought a
large piece of property with a farm house on it on a busy highway in Montrose, Ohio. Norb and Rose had adopted several children, because
they couldn't have any of their own, and with Elmer moved into the farm house.
This gave Elmer a taste of family life. They bought an old horse for the kids
to ride and I think a few chickens. One of the boys, Donny, was about five or
six and was Elmer's favorite. They built a Dairy Queen on the road frontage and
had some one else run it because they were too busy with their contracting
business. They sold the property later at a good profit and it has been resold
recently for a million dollars.
After they sold the
property Norb went to work for a construction company as a superintendent and
Elmer bought a fishing resort on an island in the middle of a lake in northern Canada in the province of Manitoba. It was a fly in resort because as far north as it was there were very
few roads. He went to work improving the resort by adding a restaurant and many
amenities. After a time he took in a partner and it looked like they were going
to start making some money. The lake was full of lunker northern pike and
things looked fine for their resort business. As it turned out however there
was an Indian women on the island who had a daughter she wanted to marry off to
Elmer. Having her daughter marry a white man would be very good for her family
because it would make them important in the Indian community. Elmer would have
no part of this and when the Indian women saw it wasn't going to work she turned
against Elmer and used her influence against him with the ones in a position to
renew the island resort lease. The land couldn't be bought because it was in a
provincial park. Elmer couldn't get his lease renewed so, at a great lose, he
was forced to sell to his partner. His partner was able to get a lease renewal
because the Indian woman wasn't mad at him. Ralph said that because they hadn't
heard from Elmer for a long time every one of the family in Cleveland was afraid the Indians had killed him and dumped his
body in the lake but during this time he was trying to salvage what he could
from the deal. Of course, he lost a great deal of money before he was out of
it.
He returned to Cleveland and worked at the carpenter trade. A few years later
he bought an apartment building in the run down part of the west side of
Cleveland where the colored and Porto Ricans were moving in. I looked at the
place on one of our visits home and wasn't impressed with the apartment. Later
the place burned down with no insurance coverage. He was able to sell the land
at a good profit to a McDonald franchise holder. We saw Elmer at Bob's house
when we were in Cleveland For John and Rose's 50th wedding anniversary. He was
not well at all. He had a hard time breathing and had to carry an atomizer to
help clear his lungs. He appeared to be suffering from emphysema and from the
look of his face and his general appearance he is in need of proper care and
medical attention.
Ralph said that when they
were kids if there was anything new to try out they would say, "Lets try
it out on Elmer." Elmer could take electrical shocks and I've seen him
stick his wet finger into a light socket to see if it was live. One time Ralph
and Howard were trying an experiment and grabbing Elmer from behind squeezed
all the air out the air out of his lungs. Elmer was knocked unconscious. They
thought they'd killed him and of course were pretty scared until they managed
to bring him out of it none the worse for it. Pa thought a lot of Elmer and
made him and Ralph joint executors of his will. A few days before Christmas
l986 Ronnie got a call from her brother, John, to tell her Larry's sister died
at the age of 92 years. I called Vi the next day to see if we could send flowers
but it was too late because the funeral was that day. She told me the latest
that was happening to Elmer. He was in the hospital for a hernia operation. He
had a double hernia but they were only able to operate on one of the hernias.
When he was ready to leave the hospital Elmer called Larry to get a ride home.
Vi told me she got mad and called Ralph and ask him how come with all Elmer's
brothers he had to call Larry to get a ride home from the hospital.
It wasn't long after
Elmer got out of the hospital that he moved to the rest home. It's the kind of
home were the patients have to be able to do for themselves. Elmer is in real
bad shape when it comes to breathing because of his emphysema but he doesn't
need complete nursing care. He's better
off were he is because at least he'll eat right.
June 28 1987 Elmer was found dead on the floor of his room by his
landlady. He was 75. He seems to have lost the will to live. Ronnie and I flew
back for the funeral. The funeral
arrangements were handled by Corrigan Funeral Homes and he was buried at St.
Mary’s cemetery. It is a sad fact of
life but at a family funeral is one of the few times we see many of our
relatives. Our aunts Angela and Frances,
who took care of us for two years after Ma died until Vi finished high school,
were there and Aunt Alma who was 95 at
the time and still on her feet. At the
cemetery there was a problem because human bones were found when they dug the
grave. There was no record of anyone being buried in that location. Elmer was
left above ground until a decision was made as what to do about the bones.
From my cousin Joan Schumann -
ReplyDeleteThe story as I know it ...Elmer met a woman in Blackpool. She was a widow with a daughter. They fell in love...he asked her to marry him, her family advised against it because he was American and a Catholic. Kelly was born in '45 after he was back home. He was sending money until the letters started coming back. She remarried and Kelly thought he was her father. In 93 or so, her mum became very ill and told her the truth. With his name and hometown, she got help from an agency that finds American GI fathers. Unfortunately Elmer was already gone. Ralph was the only brother still listed in Cleveland, so they contacted him. When Elmer passed away and Ralph went thru his belongins, there was a pic of a woman in his wallet. No one knew who she was. But when Kelly came to visit, she had that same pic of her mum, so mystery solved. The first time I saw her, I got chills. It was like seeing Elmer. She has his eyes and brow. Him and Aunt Vi had the darkest eyes.
Unfortunately, after dad and Ralph passed, she stopped writing to me. I believe they were both sending money occasionally and when that stopped, she was done with us.
It was sad that he knew of her all those years but never told anyone. Like your dad, I believe that's why he never married, in spite of all my mom's matchmaking efforts.
From cousin Joan Schumann -
ReplyDeleteseeing this pic of your dad makes me miss my dad. they look so much alike, being the only bearded boys of the clan. We were so blessed to grow up with Elmer living with us. We had 2 dads.